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The Open Medicine Foundation (OMF) advocates for ME/CFS awareness and research funding that they allocate to ME/CFS research centers around the world. Ronald W, Davis, the Director the the ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center is the director of the scientific advisory board for OMF. They are a wonderful organization. But if you donate to OMF, only a portion or possibly none of your donated funds will go to the ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center at Stanford, where the best research is happening. However, you can donate to OMF and specify in your donation notes that all the funds go to the ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center at Stanford. They will honor that.

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A lot of you ask or wonder in the comments how I write these pieces or make these photographs in this blog when I’m so severely ill with ME/CFS. The answer is actually pretty simple - sacrifice.

For example, during a recent week I woke up with energy and immediately used it to start working on a post to share on my social media pages. But after writing the post, making photographs for it and getting it scheduled on Facebook and Instagram and Twitter and published on my blog (which all adds up to a lot of work), I was exhausted and wound up laying down still, sleeping uncontrollably for the rest of the day. And these are long 36 to 48 hour days for me. For complicated reasons, my schedule does not go with the sun, but rather with how long it takes to pump enough calories worth of liquid food into my jtube to sustain me, and when I can’t sleep or my stomach gets sensitive and delays my schedule, which happens most days, I wind up with 36 hour or 48 hour days. So in the end, the only thing I was able to do for 3 days was make a social media post during the only time that I had any mental clarity. The rest of the time I couldn’t answer emails, or spend time with my Niece when she was here, or text with my sister, or stay connected with people I care about online, or watch any movies or series, etc. I laid in bed still and mostly slept. This pattern is quite common for me.

So it’s not that I have more energy than other people, it’s that I prioritize writing and photographing and sharing that with all of you above all else. When I have energy, creating advocacy content is the first thing I do and often the last.

I had the idea recently to offer people the option to support this work and the energy I put into it. I don't have much going on outside of this work like a job, or a relationship, or many friends, or much energy to connect with my family. This is what I do with my free time and energy.

After I got a bit better from Abilify, I had the energy to work on more than I can now and more than this ME/CFS advocacy work and I started making my own headphones which is a hobby I started when I became housebound, as it’s something creative I can do sitting down inside that uses little energy. I completed multiple headphone models and started a website hoping to start a company selling them. You can read more about my headphones here:

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But I am now too sick to make production units to sell, so decided to hire a friend to make them for me, but I now have too little energy to train him and I’m worried about crashing from the training sessions even if I take Ativan to protect me. So it has been delayed for a long time. But i’m telling you because I may have a headphone company up and running at some point. Still, any funds generated from that company would just go towards paying back the significant R&D costs of developing them. And I’m too sick to keep creating new models and possibly too sick to make the company happen at all which breaks my heart as I’ve put so much love into the project and they are truly special, one of a kind headphones. So I may eventually have another job, but right now this work is my job and my purpose and it will always come before anything else.

My ME/CFS advocacy work also costs a lot of money in all the equipment I need to maintain like my computer, backup hard drives, the latest iPhone for the best image quality, a DSLR, a huge amount of camera gear to allow me to make images from bed, etc.

So since this ME/CFS advocacy work is a job for me (one I love) and is expensive, I’m going to let people make contributions to my work if they choose to on a Patreon page I’ve created, or directly with one time or recurring donations in multiple payment formats.

I want to be clear about this with you all though, that it is an option. I know that many or most of you are having a hard time financially, as this illness usually takes away our means of income while at the same time costing a lot of money because insurance doesn’t consider it legitimate. I could not even get a wheelchair from my insurance company covered when i could no longer walk to the kitchen to get food to keep myself fed, and a wheelchair would have allowed me to get to the kitchen freely. I had to buy a used wheelchair myself on Craigslist. This is just one example of course, there are many examples like this from all of us, most of which are cruel, inhumane and devastating. So I understand that it is difficult or impossible to maintain an income and a very expensive life to lead.

So I want to be clear that nothing I create will ever cost you money. I will never charge for anything of substance that I create unless it is published somewhere that does charge money for accessing it. My goal is to help ME/CFS patients, not to make money.

I also understand that donating to ME/CFS research is the most important thing, and I have links to donate to ME/CFS research displayed prominently everywhere i can, always above any link to support me.

But I believe that we need more than just research donations and that my work is important for awareness (which generates research donations) and directly important for patients, caregivers, friends, loved ones and our world wide community as a whole to survive and sustain itself.

So I want to allow people who can give back to me an opportunity to do so in whatever amount makes sense to them financially. I might make some exclusive content on my Patreon site, but it will never be anything that I think would benefit fellow patients or the community, it would only be fun bits and pieces. And if you donate a certain amount that makes it financially possible, I hope to offer an annual print of an image of mine, possibly with a quote or bit of inspiration.

I’m telling you this because I know how the internet works, rumors spread quickly and often seem more valid than the truth. I want you to know the truth here first and avoid you just finding "support my advocacy work" buttons on my blogs or pages and thinking the worst or hearing rumors from others about secret content. There will never be secret content for people who can contribute, only the knowledge that you are supporting me and possibly a gift if the amount you contribute makes a gift financially feasible for me to give back to you and I have the energy to create such a gift on top of my work.

Most importantly I want to be clear that I only want people to give what they can and what feels right to them. If that is nothing, that is fine.

So when you see buttons here or there to support my advocacy work, do not feel pressure, do not feel obligation, just feel an opportunity to give back to me if you enjoy or have benefitted from my works and if you are financially able to give an amount that won’t negatively impact your life.

I want to thank all of you regardless of whether you can give back to me financially or not, because you all give back to me in a huge way. I will always be grateful to this entire community for the sense of purpose you have given my life in this work. I don’t know what I would do if I had no way of helping the ME/CFS community. Even in 2013-2020 before I took Abilify, when I could not make this work because I was too sick to use a phone or computer or camera or even communicate in any way whatsoever, I was planning this work, writing pieces in my head, going over them time and time again so I would not forget them, and imagining what I would create. You all have given me a way to, in some ways, fulfill my dreams of using my creative energy to help people.

So thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart. I love the ME/CFS community, I love all my fellow ME/CFS warriors and the people who help them or sustain them or befriend them or love them. I love this whole community very deeply and would do anything in my power to help all of you.

Love,
Whitney  
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Dear NHS, Don't Kill Karen Gordon

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Background:

A Severe ME/CFS Patient in the UK named Karen Gordon went to the Conquest Hospital Hastings when her Jtube broke in hopes of getting a new one installed. Instead, the hospital has refused to give her a new Jtube or let her go home with Total Parenteral Nutrition (TPN), holding her hostage at the hospital for months. They have now given her an ultimatum that she must decide within 48 hours between being sent 100 miles to the St Mark’s Hospital in London to be re assessed for GI issues by Doctors who know nothing about ME/CFS and do not follow the NICE guidelines and therefore will not give her a Jtube. Or they will discharge her with no TPN to starve to death at home. Either option will kill her. This letter is an urgent attempt to make the hospital aware that they will kill her so they will change course and send Karen home with a PEG/Jtube or TPN so she can live.

Letter:

Dear CEO and Directors of East Sussex Healthcare NHS Trust and the management of Conquest Hospital Hastings and Eastbourne District General Hospital,

My name is Whitney Dafoe and I am sick with a similarly severe case of ME/CFS to Karen Gordon with very similar symptoms.

Karen Gordon’s situation is very simple. She cannot eat enough food to survive. You are requiring her to travel 100 miles to St Mark’s Hospital in London to receive a very routine treatment - a new PEG/J tube or TPN that you would immediately give to a patient there at Conquest Hospital Hastings if Karen had any other illness. But which you refuse to give to Karen simply because she has ME. This is prejudice, plain and simple.

Requiring Karen to be assessed for GI issues before receiving either a PEG/J tube or TPN is a waste of precious time as Karen’s condition worsens. Sending Karen 100 miles is very likely to kill her or make her condition so much worse that she winds up dying; As a direct result of this travel and stay at a new hospital, with all new doctors and staff, none of whom understand her illness or how to treat her according to the NICE guidelines so that she does not get worse.

The worldwide scientific and medical communities do not know what causes GI issues with ME patients. None of the doctors at any NHS hospital will find anything wrong, and then they will try to deny Karen treatment. But Karen’s GI symptoms are very common with ME, in mild to severe patients. Thousands of ME patients around the world have the same GI issues as Karen. Just because we do not know what the cause is does not mean it is not a serious, physiological problem with Karen’s GI system.

Please do not require Karen to travel 100 miles to go to a different hospital to be assessed for her GI issues, which the world’s leading ME experts already recognize have unknown causes. Please treat Karen there, at Conquest Hospital Hastings, with a PEG/J tube or TPN and then let her go home with it. Just as you would do if Karen had any illness other than ME. You cannot let someone die simply because they have ME.

I would like to tell you how my experience has been with severe ME and both TPN and a PEG/J tube at home so you might understand how safe this is, and think about the seriousness of Karen not getting food (certain death) rather than worrying about a routine treatment that is extremely unlikely to cause any harm or complications.

I have had a PEG/J tube for over 8 years, since January 8, 2016 with no complications of any kind. The only thing that has happened is that every tube eventually breaks, like Karen’s did and I go to my local hospital in a gurney while sedated on the drug Lorazepam so the trip does not make my health condition worse, and have the PEG/Jtube replaced. I have had at least 8 PEG/J tubes now.

Every single day I pump food (formula) into the J part of the tube and inject 45cc of pureed food into the G part of the tube to make sure my stomach does not atrophy. I can not tolerate pumping even a small amount of food into the G tube.

I often have the food pump running into the PEG/J tube for 12 hours at a time or more, it makes no difference how long I have food pumping, my symptoms and state of health is the same with the food pump on or off. I always lay flat when food is being pumped into me and laying flat has never, not once been an issue or even caused any nausea or discomfort. Not once. The tube has never pulled out, or gotten curled up, and I have never aspirated. It has also never gotten infected and I go days between cleaning it with hydrogen peroxide and also cannot change my bottom sheet more than once every few months, so it is not in a very sterile environment. Yet the tube has, for over 8 years, been completely fine, with no hint of infection or bad bacterial growth of any kind.

Every few months I have to go to the hospital to get the J-tube changed. I have to get a gurney transport to get there because I am not able to walk or move to a wheelchair, but gurney transports are readily available. The hospital is very accommodating. They give me a private room and allow me to keep the lights off and cover the computer and LED’s on the equipment with towels. They don’t speak with me, but instead ask my mother all questions outside the room with the door closed. My treatment is consistent with the NICE guidelines and they are very respectful of my condition. With their accommodations along with the help of the drug Lorazepam, I am not harmed by these trips. They are temporarily exhausting but my condition does not worsen for more than a week. If I did not receive the gurney, the accommodations by the hospital, and Lorazepam, I would likely not recover from just a single trip to the hospital.

Before the PEG/Jtube I had TPN through a PICC line for 18 months. I never got sepsis, but I did get a few infections. They were treated with antibiotics and I got over the infections in a matter of days and returned to my previous state of health with no damage or long term consequences. The PICC line was installed at home, and when it needed changing, it was changed at home as well. The blood sugar checks needed for TPN feeding take only a few seconds and happened without me hardly noticing. They never caused distress or stress nor did they make my symptoms worse in any way. And after my body stabilized, I no longer needed to have blood sugar tests at all anymore. My parents were trained on how to change the bandage and they do it while I'm wearing earmuffs and an eye mask so that it does not cause overstimulation that would make my health worse. The earmuffs and eye mask I use are readily available all over the UK. Changing the bandage does not cause me harm in any way. It takes an hour maximum and has never been an issue.

I still have the central line for IV fluids for hydration and haven't had an infection in many years. As mentioned above, my caregivers can’t change my sheets very often because of how much energy it takes me to tolerate. So sometimes the bottom sheet was not changed for months. Yet the issue of PICC line hygiene was managed fine in a non sterile environment. There are sterile caps you can put on the ports that prevent anything getting in, in addition to a lock on the ports themselves.

If you do not let Karen Gordon go home with a PEG/J tube or TPN installed there at the Conquest Hospital in Hastings UK, and instead require her to travel 100 miles and endure weeks of superfluous new assessments, she will die. It is that simple. She cannot be transported to a different hospital and start a new unnecessary diagnostic process all over again with Doctors who will abuse her by ignoring the NICE guidelines for caring for ME patients. Her health will deteriorate to the point that she will not recover. You already know what the problem is. She cannot eat enough food to survive. This is a common health problem that you know how to solve. You need to act now, or Karen will die. And make no mistake, her death will be 100% your fault and the world is watching. Please see the news about the coroner’s inquest into the death of ME patient Maeve Boothby O’Neill from being denied a feeding tube just like you are doing to Karen. Mave’s Inquest has received nationwide news coverage, and so will Karen’s death.

If I was treated the way Karen is being treated, I would die just like Karen will die without PEG/J tube or TPN at home. Luckily, I had doctors who viewed ME as the serious physiological disease that it is. They did not force me to undergo assessments that would not provide meaningful results because it would only cause me harm. And my doctors understood that the risk of needing to take antibiotics occasionally or add a few extra steps to my daily routine was better than the certainty of death from starvation, dehydration or malnutrition, which is what will happen to Karen. Karen just needs a way to get nutrition into her body. I got TPN and then a PEG/J tube and lived. Karen is not being allowed to go home with either a PEG/J tube or TPN and will die without one of the two.

Every doctor at the Conquest Hospital Hastings took a vow to do no harm. Forcing a person to decide between jumping through unnecessary hurdles that will kill them or letting her starve to death in your care is HARM.

Thank you for your time and for caring about Karen's case.

Sincerely,
Whitney Dafoe
Severe ME/CFS Patient and Advocate

❗CALL TO ACTION❗

Please help! If you or anyone you know in the UK is able, please deliver my letter pleading to save Karen Gordon’s life to the Conquest Hospital Hastings. It is URGENT as in TODAY. Her life is at stake.

You can download my letter by clicking the link below to print out along with your choice of a selection of images of me with a PEG/Jtube and TPN both AT HOME, which the hospital says is not possible. IT IS.

 Download this letter and images of me being fed with TPN and via PEG/Jtube at home

 Link to download this letter in various file formats and photographs of me lying flat *while being fed through a J-tube and via TPN* posted in the public domain between 2014 to 2021
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