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ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center at Stanford

Part of the
Stanford Genome Technology Center
The ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center at Stanford (MECFS CRC) is where the best research into ME/CFS is happening anywhere in the world. Your donation will have the biggest impact on patient's quality of life and go the furthest towards finding a diagnostic, treatments and a cure.
Click here on the ME/CFS collaborative Research Center Website:
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The Open Medicine Foundation (OMF) advocates for ME/CFS awareness and research funding that they allocate to ME/CFS research centers around the world. Ronald W, Davis, the Director the the ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center is the director of the scientific advisory board for OMF. They are a wonderful organization. But if you donate to OMF, only a portion or possibly none of your donated funds will go to the ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center at Stanford, where the best research is happening. However, you can donate to OMF and specify in your donation notes that all the funds go to the ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center at Stanford. They will honor that.

Support My Advocacy Work  

If you enjoy or benefit from my writings, photography and advocacy work please consider becoming a patron or making a contribution to support me continuing this work. It is expensive to produce and requires a great sacrifice on my part. But please do not feel obligated or hurt your ability to sustain yourself financially. My work will always be available to everyone for free.

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A lot of you ask or wonder in the comments how I write these pieces or make these photographs in this blog when I’m so severely ill with ME/CFS. The answer is actually pretty simple - sacrifice.

For example, during a recent week I woke up with energy and immediately used it to start working on a post to share on my social media pages. But after writing the post, making photographs for it and getting it scheduled on Facebook and Instagram and Twitter and published on my blog (which all adds up to a lot of work), I was exhausted and wound up laying down still, sleeping uncontrollably for the rest of the day. And these are long 36 to 48 hour days for me. For complicated reasons, my schedule does not go with the sun, but rather with how long it takes to pump enough calories worth of liquid food into my jtube to sustain me, and when I can’t sleep or my stomach gets sensitive and delays my schedule, which happens most days, I wind up with 36 hour or 48 hour days. So in the end, the only thing I was able to do for 3 days was make a social media post during the only time that I had any mental clarity. The rest of the time I couldn’t answer emails, or spend time with my Niece when she was here, or text with my sister, or stay connected with people I care about online, or watch any movies or series, etc. I laid in bed still and mostly slept. This pattern is quite common for me.

So it’s not that I have more energy than other people, it’s that I prioritize writing and photographing and sharing that with all of you above all else. When I have energy, creating advocacy content is the first thing I do and often the last.

I had the idea recently to offer people the option to support this work and the energy I put into it. I don't have much going on outside of this work like a job, or a relationship, or many friends, or much energy to connect with my family. This is what I do with my free time and energy.

After I got a bit better from Abilify, I had the energy to work on more than I can now and more than this ME/CFS advocacy work and I started making my own headphones which is a hobby I started when I became housebound, as it’s something creative I can do sitting down inside that uses little energy. I completed multiple headphone models and started a website hoping to start a company selling them. You can read more about my headphones here:

 rhythmdevils audio

But I am now too sick to make production units to sell, so decided to hire a friend to make them for me, but I now have too little energy to train him and I’m worried about crashing from the training sessions even if I take Ativan to protect me. So it has been delayed for a long time. But i’m telling you because I may have a headphone company up and running at some point. Still, any funds generated from that company would just go towards paying back the significant R&D costs of developing them. And I’m too sick to keep creating new models and possibly too sick to make the company happen at all which breaks my heart as I’ve put so much love into the project and they are truly special, one of a kind headphones. So I may eventually have another job, but right now this work is my job and my purpose and it will always come before anything else.

My ME/CFS advocacy work also costs a lot of money in all the equipment I need to maintain like my computer, backup hard drives, the latest iPhone for the best image quality, a DSLR, a huge amount of camera gear to allow me to make images from bed, etc.

So since this ME/CFS advocacy work is a job for me (one I love) and is expensive, I’m going to let people make contributions to my work if they choose to on a Patreon page I’ve created, or directly with one time or recurring donations in multiple payment formats.

I want to be clear about this with you all though, that it is an option. I know that many or most of you are having a hard time financially, as this illness usually takes away our means of income while at the same time costing a lot of money because insurance doesn’t consider it legitimate. I could not even get a wheelchair from my insurance company covered when i could no longer walk to the kitchen to get food to keep myself fed, and a wheelchair would have allowed me to get to the kitchen freely. I had to buy a used wheelchair myself on Craigslist. This is just one example of course, there are many examples like this from all of us, most of which are cruel, inhumane and devastating. So I understand that it is difficult or impossible to maintain an income and a very expensive life to lead.

So I want to be clear that nothing I create will ever cost you money. I will never charge for anything of substance that I create unless it is published somewhere that does charge money for accessing it. My goal is to help ME/CFS patients, not to make money.

I also understand that donating to ME/CFS research is the most important thing, and I have links to donate to ME/CFS research displayed prominently everywhere i can, always above any link to support me.

But I believe that we need more than just research donations and that my work is important for awareness (which generates research donations) and directly important for patients, caregivers, friends, loved ones and our world wide community as a whole to survive and sustain itself.

So I want to allow people who can give back to me an opportunity to do so in whatever amount makes sense to them financially. I might make some exclusive content on my Patreon site, but it will never be anything that I think would benefit fellow patients or the community, it would only be fun bits and pieces. And if you donate a certain amount that makes it financially possible, I hope to offer an annual print of an image of mine, possibly with a quote or bit of inspiration.

I’m telling you this because I know how the internet works, rumors spread quickly and often seem more valid than the truth. I want you to know the truth here first and avoid you just finding "support my advocacy work" buttons on my blogs or pages and thinking the worst or hearing rumors from others about secret content. There will never be secret content for people who can contribute, only the knowledge that you are supporting me and possibly a gift if the amount you contribute makes a gift financially feasible for me to give back to you and I have the energy to create such a gift on top of my work.

Most importantly I want to be clear that I only want people to give what they can and what feels right to them. If that is nothing, that is fine.

So when you see buttons here or there to support my advocacy work, do not feel pressure, do not feel obligation, just feel an opportunity to give back to me if you enjoy or have benefitted from my works and if you are financially able to give an amount that won’t negatively impact your life.

I want to thank all of you regardless of whether you can give back to me financially or not, because you all give back to me in a huge way. I will always be grateful to this entire community for the sense of purpose you have given my life in this work. I don’t know what I would do if I had no way of helping the ME/CFS community. Even in 2013-2020 before I took Abilify, when I could not make this work because I was too sick to use a phone or computer or camera or even communicate in any way whatsoever, I was planning this work, writing pieces in my head, going over them time and time again so I would not forget them, and imagining what I would create. You all have given me a way to, in some ways, fulfill my dreams of using my creative energy to help people.

So thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart. I love the ME/CFS community, I love all my fellow ME/CFS warriors and the people who help them or sustain them or befriend them or love them. I love this whole community very deeply and would do anything in my power to help all of you.

Love,
Whitney  
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NIH Shows Their True Colors in the New Year 2024

It’s a new year already and I’m coming in dancing for 2024!

Watch my new YouTube video for 2024 here

I don’t know about you, but this year has not been kind to me.

My health absolutely plummeted when Abilify stopped working for me.
I lost the ability to communicate or use my phone or computer or almost anything else around me for the second time in 10 years and fell back into a black hole for about 8 months.

It feels like no progress is being made with research, I know how you feel. Science doesn’t always happen how we think it would or should or could, but it especially doesn’t when it is sabotaged by chronic underfunding and none of the researchers can do all of what they want to do or follow their ideas.

But I promise you that progress is being made, just slower than I thought it would happen and hoped it would happen. I really hoped to be healthy by the time I turned 40. But here I am, in worse health than I was when I was 39.

This year is going to be about RESILIENCE.

#MECFSresilience2024

I know that better treatments and a cure are coming, possibly this year. You don’t have to believe me, but I promise they are coming, we just need to wait until they get here. We all have SO MUCH living to do. We cannot give up now. NIH doesn’t get to just snuff us out.

We all know that NIH funds ME/CFS abysmally low compared to all other chronic illnesses, many of which affect fewer people and cause much less suffering and loss of quality of life.

But NIH isn’t even doing what they could with the funds they *DO* have. The recent NIH Annual Meeting on ME/CFS was all just a big PR stunt to try to tell the world they are accomplishing something. Most of the presentations, while having good intentions, were measuring various specific things occurring in patients with little focus on how they might explain the cause of the disease or lead to any treatment. This approach doesn’t translate to a tangible benefit for ME/CFS patients. It can help in incremental ways and lead to other things, but it would take decades to find a cure this way. NIH likes this kind of research because it leads to published papers, which looks like progress because they can count them with their fingers and pencils. But to find actual treatments and a cure, researchers need to focus on the overall mechanisms of the disease and how they could figure out how to intervene to make patients better. Knowing some little piece of data about some tiny part of our bodies detached from any kind of big picture hypothesis or theory or result doesn’t get us further towards a cure. How does their research contribute to progress for patients? How do their results contribute to our overall understanding of ME/CFS?

This is a big deal. NIH wants to throw us just enough scrappy bones to say they fed us, toss us back in our cage, and wrap that cage up with enough bows to make it look like they care about us enough for another year to go by without anyone taking action. But it is NIH itself who *chooses* to keep the wealth of real food on the table while only throwing us scraps. Bows and ribbons are cheap but they do not feed anybody. And likewise, scraps of information that aren't based on any theory or mechanism don't cure diseases.

Ron is not focussed on publishing papers that don’t lead to a real benefit for patients. All of his work is focussed on figuring out the underlying cause so he can then figure out how to intervene and stop it. He is trying to do what no one has done for a century. CURE ME/CFS. This approach might not produce immediate publishable papers but it is what will find what is happening to our bodies which will lead to real answers and a cure.

NIH isn't trying with any urgency to find real answers. They don’t care. They just want enough PR to keep their charade going for another year, while all of us grow a year older and lose another precious year of our shrinking future to ME/CFS.

This year, we are not going to give NIH the satisfaction of thinking we are buying into their PR stunts to try to convince us and the world that they are doing everything they can to stop our suffering. We will keep telling them that the Emperor has NO CLOTHES. We know they could do so much more if they tried. And we know we are not a priority for them. We see what they can do when they care about a cause and it is not this.

When our brilliant scientists find a cure, it will be the most shameful moment in the history of NIH and one of the most shameful moments for all governments around the world who neglected us for a century and forced scientists to find a cure on their own, with private funding, while they put on PR stunts that were just good enough for people who don’t know better to think they were doing something. And all of these tactics enabled bogus recommendations like GET, CBT, the Lightening Process, etc to continue harming patients, and enabling governments like the UK to refuse lifesaving treatments to patients and just let them die.

So I say this year we say fuck you to NIH, we pick ourselves up and we channel our anger and our frustration and our sadness into DANCING, in whatever way you can, even if it’s just with your shoulders or your feet or your breath. We dance because we are still alive. We dance because we still want to live. We dance for the life left in us. We dance because we see through their petty games. We dance because we will be vindicated in the end. We dance because even in the depths of our suffering, we see the real value and beauty of this life better than anyone. We dance because suffering is the greatest teacher in the world. Let's celebrate our great connection to each other and the infinite beauty of this world and DANCE.

I really hope our researchers find a cure this year, I know they think it is possible. And in the meantime, we will dance to call out NIH’s attempt to keep us down and sweep us under the carpet. We are still alive, we are still suffering, and we are not going away. Even if NIH tries to use the vaunted Duster Puffer 60000® carpet sweeper under-er. 😉 😂

We are not going under that carpet.

And we really encourage the Emperor to PUT ON SOME DAMN CLOTHES and actually do something about the profound suffering that NIH KNOWS is happening to millions of people on their watch.

Dance with me this New Year, and let’s bring in 2024 with hope, renewed strength, endless resilience, and a punch in the face to the soulless cheese dick con artist NIH deadbeats #SCDCAnihDB

 Watch my new youtube video here

#MECFSresilience2024

Love,
Whitney  

PS. Please donate whatever you can to my 40th birthday fundraiser:

http://spot.fund/FindACureForMEcfs2023

We have reached the first goal which is AMAZING, but there is a 3rd instrument that would greatly speed up Ron’s work if we can raise another $30,000. Faster research means a sooner cure! 😊
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