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ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center at Stanford

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The ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center at Stanford (MECFS CRC) is where the best research into ME/CFS is happening anywhere in the world. Your donation will have the biggest impact on patient's quality of life and go the furthest towards finding a diagnostic, treatments and a cure.
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The Open Medicine Foundation (OMF) advocates for ME/CFS awareness and research funding that they allocate to ME/CFS research centers around the world. Ronald W, Davis, the Director the the ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center is the director of the scientific advisory board for OMF. They are a wonderful organization. But if you donate to OMF, only a portion or possibly none of your donated funds will go to the ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center at Stanford, where the best research is happening. However, you can donate to OMF and specify in your donation notes that all the funds go to the ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center at Stanford. They will honor that.

Support My Advocacy Work  

If you enjoy or benefit from my writings, photography and advocacy work please consider becoming a patron or making a contribution to support me continuing this work. It is expensive to produce and requires a great sacrifice on my part. But please do not feel obligated or hurt your ability to sustain yourself financially. My work will always be available to everyone for free.

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A lot of you ask or wonder in the comments how I write these pieces or make these photographs in this blog when I’m so severely ill with ME/CFS. The answer is actually pretty simple - sacrifice.

For example, during a recent week I woke up with energy and immediately used it to start working on a post to share on my social media pages. But after writing the post, making photographs for it and getting it scheduled on Facebook and Instagram and Twitter and published on my blog (which all adds up to a lot of work), I was exhausted and wound up laying down still, sleeping uncontrollably for the rest of the day. And these are long 36 to 48 hour days for me. For complicated reasons, my schedule does not go with the sun, but rather with how long it takes to pump enough calories worth of liquid food into my jtube to sustain me, and when I can’t sleep or my stomach gets sensitive and delays my schedule, which happens most days, I wind up with 36 hour or 48 hour days. So in the end, the only thing I was able to do for 3 days was make a social media post during the only time that I had any mental clarity. The rest of the time I couldn’t answer emails, or spend time with my Niece when she was here, or text with my sister, or stay connected with people I care about online, or watch any movies or series, etc. I laid in bed still and mostly slept. This pattern is quite common for me.

So it’s not that I have more energy than other people, it’s that I prioritize writing and photographing and sharing that with all of you above all else. When I have energy, creating advocacy content is the first thing I do and often the last.

I had the idea recently to offer people the option to support this work and the energy I put into it. I don't have much going on outside of this work like a job, or a relationship, or many friends, or much energy to connect with my family. This is what I do with my free time and energy.

After I got a bit better from Abilify, I had the energy to work on more than I can now and more than this ME/CFS advocacy work and I started making my own headphones which is a hobby I started when I became housebound, as it’s something creative I can do sitting down inside that uses little energy. I completed multiple headphone models and started a website hoping to start a company selling them. You can read more about my headphones here:

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But I am now too sick to make production units to sell, so decided to hire a friend to make them for me, but I now have too little energy to train him and I’m worried about crashing from the training sessions even if I take Ativan to protect me. So it has been delayed for a long time. But i’m telling you because I may have a headphone company up and running at some point. Still, any funds generated from that company would just go towards paying back the significant R&D costs of developing them. And I’m too sick to keep creating new models and possibly too sick to make the company happen at all which breaks my heart as I’ve put so much love into the project and they are truly special, one of a kind headphones. So I may eventually have another job, but right now this work is my job and my purpose and it will always come before anything else.

My ME/CFS advocacy work also costs a lot of money in all the equipment I need to maintain like my computer, backup hard drives, the latest iPhone for the best image quality, a DSLR, a huge amount of camera gear to allow me to make images from bed, etc.

So since this ME/CFS advocacy work is a job for me (one I love) and is expensive, I’m going to let people make contributions to my work if they choose to on a Patreon page I’ve created, or directly with one time or recurring donations in multiple payment formats.

I want to be clear about this with you all though, that it is an option. I know that many or most of you are having a hard time financially, as this illness usually takes away our means of income while at the same time costing a lot of money because insurance doesn’t consider it legitimate. I could not even get a wheelchair from my insurance company covered when i could no longer walk to the kitchen to get food to keep myself fed, and a wheelchair would have allowed me to get to the kitchen freely. I had to buy a used wheelchair myself on Craigslist. This is just one example of course, there are many examples like this from all of us, most of which are cruel, inhumane and devastating. So I understand that it is difficult or impossible to maintain an income and a very expensive life to lead.

So I want to be clear that nothing I create will ever cost you money. I will never charge for anything of substance that I create unless it is published somewhere that does charge money for accessing it. My goal is to help ME/CFS patients, not to make money.

I also understand that donating to ME/CFS research is the most important thing, and I have links to donate to ME/CFS research displayed prominently everywhere i can, always above any link to support me.

But I believe that we need more than just research donations and that my work is important for awareness (which generates research donations) and directly important for patients, caregivers, friends, loved ones and our world wide community as a whole to survive and sustain itself.

So I want to allow people who can give back to me an opportunity to do so in whatever amount makes sense to them financially. I might make some exclusive content on my Patreon site, but it will never be anything that I think would benefit fellow patients or the community, it would only be fun bits and pieces. And if you donate a certain amount that makes it financially possible, I hope to offer an annual print of an image of mine, possibly with a quote or bit of inspiration.

I’m telling you this because I know how the internet works, rumors spread quickly and often seem more valid than the truth. I want you to know the truth here first and avoid you just finding "support my advocacy work" buttons on my blogs or pages and thinking the worst or hearing rumors from others about secret content. There will never be secret content for people who can contribute, only the knowledge that you are supporting me and possibly a gift if the amount you contribute makes a gift financially feasible for me to give back to you and I have the energy to create such a gift on top of my work.

Most importantly I want to be clear that I only want people to give what they can and what feels right to them. If that is nothing, that is fine.

So when you see buttons here or there to support my advocacy work, do not feel pressure, do not feel obligation, just feel an opportunity to give back to me if you enjoy or have benefitted from my works and if you are financially able to give an amount that won’t negatively impact your life.

I want to thank all of you regardless of whether you can give back to me financially or not, because you all give back to me in a huge way. I will always be grateful to this entire community for the sense of purpose you have given my life in this work. I don’t know what I would do if I had no way of helping the ME/CFS community. Even in 2013-2020 before I took Abilify, when I could not make this work because I was too sick to use a phone or computer or camera or even communicate in any way whatsoever, I was planning this work, writing pieces in my head, going over them time and time again so I would not forget them, and imagining what I would create. You all have given me a way to, in some ways, fulfill my dreams of using my creative energy to help people.

So thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart. I love the ME/CFS community, I love all my fellow ME/CFS warriors and the people who help them or sustain them or befriend them or love them. I love this whole community very deeply and would do anything in my power to help all of you.

Love,
Whitney  
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Part 1

Part 2

Feeling The Medical System Work

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This was recorded spontaneously on 1/11/26 while in the hospital, this is a transcript:

So they’re starting to talk about my discharge from the hospital, and you’d think I would be just dying to go home, having ME/CFS and being in the hospital. But I’ve wound up luckily landing in this unique situation where this room and environment don’t make me worse, and the staff is sort of listening about ME/CFS.

So I haven’t really gotten worse here, and I have some conflicting emotions about going home versus staying here that are kind of interesting. There’s something just deeply, deeply cathartic about having a medical issue that’s known. You go to the hospital and they diagnose you and they have a treatment plan.

They figure out what’s wrong with you, they know what it is, and they execute that treatment plan, and they basically know what’s going to happen to you. I always talk about the medical system as being designed for broken legs, where you go to the hospital and they wrap a cast around you and you go home and you recover, and that’s kind of what’s happening here.

The medical system is working for me, and that feeling is just amazing. I mean, compare that to ME/CFS, where every single symptom is an unknown. We never really know what’s happening to us or what’s going to happen to us, or what happened to us in the past. Even if we have a treatment plan, it’s kind of all up in the air, and we just never know what’s going on with us, even with the simplest things.

And here it’s like the medical system is working for me, and I know what’s happening. I would never want this condition in a million years. But feeling the medical system working for me has just been amazing.

At the same time, I’m really looking forward to going back to my routine at home, where my caregiver is the same person every day, and she knows exactly what I need. She comes in and we barely even talk. She gives me what I need and takes care of me.

There’s so little energy involved in it, and it’s just so fluid, and it’s just easy to be taken care of, compared to here where there’s a new nurse every day and every night, and I have to explain every single thing I need over and over again, combined with all the poking and prodding and temperature taking.

But just that feeling of having the medical system working for me and how good it feels, I think speaks a lot to the experience of having ME/CFS and what we need as ME/CFS patients.

Love, Whitney  

Note: I wasnt being treated for ME/CFS in the hospital, if I was I would have had a terrible experience. This video and post was about how it felt to be treated for sepsis and blood clots from my central line, conditions which the medical system knows how to treat and how that felt to be “within the medical system” for once. Compared to how we are treated for ME/CFS.

Part 2 : Clarifying

I just want to clarify my last video because I think I left out a few key words. I wasn’t at the hospital to treat ME/CFS in general. I was there to treat an infection and blood clots, and I went over that in the previous video I made about my experience at the hospital. I would never go to the hospital to treat general ME/CFS unless I absolutely had to, unless I had no other place to go.

And some people do end up without any other place to go, and they have a terrible experience, because when it comes to ME/CFS, all of our needs are ignored. They have no idea how to make us better.

But I was there for an infection, sepsis, and blood clots, and those are things the medical system knows how to treat really well. There have been tons of studies on sepsis, on infection in general, and on blood clots. There are multiple drugs out there to treat blood clots, and there have been long-term studies on their effectiveness and outcomes.

So when I went to the hospital with those conditions, they did tests and figured out what was going on. And then I could just see this system go into action. And that’s what I was talking about being amazing to feel, because it was working for me, that part of the medical system - treating the infection and the sepsis.

They figured out what was wrong, they figured out the best treatment options, they put those treatments into motion, and then they gave me a really accurate assessment of how long it would take me to recover.

They were really knowledgeable and in control and comforting, because this is something a lot of people deal with and they know how to handle it.

They’re clueless about ME/CFS. The whole medical system is clueless about ME/CFS. But being treated by the medical system in a situation where they knew what was wrong with me and knew how to treat it was amazing.

Like I said, it was just so cathartic, and I really wish I could be treated like that for ME/CFS. I really hope that someday all of us are treated that way by the medical system, because that’s what is just and what we need.

Love, Whitney  

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