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ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center at Stanford

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The ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center at Stanford (MECFS CRC) is where the best research into ME/CFS is happening anywhere in the world. Your donation will have the biggest impact on patient's quality of life and go the furthest towards finding a diagnostic, treatments and a cure.
Click here on the ME/CFS collaborative Research Center Website:
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The Open Medicine Foundation (OMF) advocates for ME/CFS awareness and research funding that they allocate to ME/CFS research centers around the world. Ronald W, Davis, the Director the the ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center is the director of the scientific advisory board for OMF. They are a wonderful organization. But if you donate to OMF, only a portion or possibly none of your donated funds will go to the ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center at Stanford, where the best research is happening. However, you can donate to OMF and specify in your donation notes that all the funds go to the ME/CFS Collaborative Research Center at Stanford. They will honor that.

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If you enjoy or benefit from my writings, photography and advocacy work please consider becoming a patron or making a contribution to support me continuing this work. It is expensive to produce and requires a great sacrifice on my part. But please do not feel obligated or hurt your ability to sustain yourself financially. My work will always be available to everyone for free.

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A lot of you ask or wonder in the comments how I write these pieces or make these photographs in this blog when I’m so severely ill with ME/CFS. The answer is actually pretty simple - sacrifice.

For example, during a recent week I woke up with energy and immediately used it to start working on a post to share on my social media pages. But after writing the post, making photographs for it and getting it scheduled on Facebook and Instagram and Twitter and published on my blog (which all adds up to a lot of work), I was exhausted and wound up laying down still, sleeping uncontrollably for the rest of the day. And these are long 36 to 48 hour days for me. For complicated reasons, my schedule does not go with the sun, but rather with how long it takes to pump enough calories worth of liquid food into my jtube to sustain me, and when I can’t sleep or my stomach gets sensitive and delays my schedule, which happens most days, I wind up with 36 hour or 48 hour days. So in the end, the only thing I was able to do for 3 days was make a social media post during the only time that I had any mental clarity. The rest of the time I couldn’t answer emails, or spend time with my Niece when she was here, or text with my sister, or stay connected with people I care about online, or watch any movies or series, etc. I laid in bed still and mostly slept. This pattern is quite common for me.

So it’s not that I have more energy than other people, it’s that I prioritize writing and photographing and sharing that with all of you above all else. When I have energy, creating advocacy content is the first thing I do and often the last.

I had the idea recently to offer people the option to support this work and the energy I put into it. I don't have much going on outside of this work like a job, or a relationship, or many friends, or much energy to connect with my family. This is what I do with my free time and energy.

After I got a bit better from Abilify, I had the energy to work on more than I can now and more than this ME/CFS advocacy work and I started making my own headphones which is a hobby I started when I became housebound, as it’s something creative I can do sitting down inside that uses little energy. I completed multiple headphone models and started a website hoping to start a company selling them. You can read more about my headphones here:

 rhythmdevils audio

But I am now too sick to make production units to sell, so decided to hire a friend to make them for me, but I now have too little energy to train him and I’m worried about crashing from the training sessions even if I take Ativan to protect me. So it has been delayed for a long time. But i’m telling you because I may have a headphone company up and running at some point. Still, any funds generated from that company would just go towards paying back the significant R&D costs of developing them. And I’m too sick to keep creating new models and possibly too sick to make the company happen at all which breaks my heart as I’ve put so much love into the project and they are truly special, one of a kind headphones. So I may eventually have another job, but right now this work is my job and my purpose and it will always come before anything else.

My ME/CFS advocacy work also costs a lot of money in all the equipment I need to maintain like my computer, backup hard drives, the latest iPhone for the best image quality, a DSLR, a huge amount of camera gear to allow me to make images from bed, etc.

So since this ME/CFS advocacy work is a job for me (one I love) and is expensive, I’m going to let people make contributions to my work if they choose to on a Patreon page I’ve created, or directly with one time or recurring donations in multiple payment formats.

I want to be clear about this with you all though, that it is an option. I know that many or most of you are having a hard time financially, as this illness usually takes away our means of income while at the same time costing a lot of money because insurance doesn’t consider it legitimate. I could not even get a wheelchair from my insurance company covered when i could no longer walk to the kitchen to get food to keep myself fed, and a wheelchair would have allowed me to get to the kitchen freely. I had to buy a used wheelchair myself on Craigslist. This is just one example of course, there are many examples like this from all of us, most of which are cruel, inhumane and devastating. So I understand that it is difficult or impossible to maintain an income and a very expensive life to lead.

So I want to be clear that nothing I create will ever cost you money. I will never charge for anything of substance that I create unless it is published somewhere that does charge money for accessing it. My goal is to help ME/CFS patients, not to make money.

I also understand that donating to ME/CFS research is the most important thing, and I have links to donate to ME/CFS research displayed prominently everywhere i can, always above any link to support me.

But I believe that we need more than just research donations and that my work is important for awareness (which generates research donations) and directly important for patients, caregivers, friends, loved ones and our world wide community as a whole to survive and sustain itself.

So I want to allow people who can give back to me an opportunity to do so in whatever amount makes sense to them financially. I might make some exclusive content on my Patreon site, but it will never be anything that I think would benefit fellow patients or the community, it would only be fun bits and pieces. And if you donate a certain amount that makes it financially possible, I hope to offer an annual print of an image of mine, possibly with a quote or bit of inspiration.

I’m telling you this because I know how the internet works, rumors spread quickly and often seem more valid than the truth. I want you to know the truth here first and avoid you just finding "support my advocacy work" buttons on my blogs or pages and thinking the worst or hearing rumors from others about secret content. There will never be secret content for people who can contribute, only the knowledge that you are supporting me and possibly a gift if the amount you contribute makes a gift financially feasible for me to give back to you and I have the energy to create such a gift on top of my work.

Most importantly I want to be clear that I only want people to give what they can and what feels right to them. If that is nothing, that is fine.

So when you see buttons here or there to support my advocacy work, do not feel pressure, do not feel obligation, just feel an opportunity to give back to me if you enjoy or have benefitted from my works and if you are financially able to give an amount that won’t negatively impact your life.

I want to thank all of you regardless of whether you can give back to me financially or not, because you all give back to me in a huge way. I will always be grateful to this entire community for the sense of purpose you have given my life in this work. I don’t know what I would do if I had no way of helping the ME/CFS community. Even in 2013-2020 before I took Abilify, when I could not make this work because I was too sick to use a phone or computer or camera or even communicate in any way whatsoever, I was planning this work, writing pieces in my head, going over them time and time again so I would not forget them, and imagining what I would create. You all have given me a way to, in some ways, fulfill my dreams of using my creative energy to help people.

So thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart. I love the ME/CFS community, I love all my fellow ME/CFS warriors and the people who help them or sustain them or befriend them or love them. I love this whole community very deeply and would do anything in my power to help all of you.

Love,
Whitney  
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Too Many Of Us Are Dying

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Too many of us are dying.

I see people protesting the rights of many marginalized groups and important issues. I see people up in arms over injustices faced by people all around the world. Injustices that should be fought against and I do not intend to downplay. If I was healthy, I would be out there fighting against them too.

But ME/CFS and Long Covid patients ARE DYING. Not to mention suffering endlessly from symptoms that are often only comparable to what any other human being ever experiences right before death. For neverending decades. And I don’t see anyone even blinking an eye. I don’t see anyone even seeing us. We do not exist for most of the public in this world.

Racial equality matters
Climate change matters
Reproductive rights matter
LGBTQ+ rights matter
Voting rights matters
Labor rights matter
Immigration policy matters
Religious freedom matters
etc (there are a lot of things that matter  😉 )

But we are asking for the right to LIVE. We have already lost all of the rights people are actively in the streets fighting for in the list above. Gone. For decades. Again, WE ARE DYING. Most of us can't even have children, hold a job, go to church, be in a relationship. We aren’t asking for the right to have the kind of sex we want to have, we are too sick to even have sex. We aren’t asking for the right to practice the kind of religion we choose, we are asking to be able to practice anything - from religion to even simply taking care of ourselves - our basic necessities. We are too sick to even be out in the world enough to face the kind of inequality being fought for all around the world. We are fighting for our lives, often stuck at home or in bed.

Where is the public outcry or even public support? Many issues matter, it is important to mention them not to downplay them, but to show that people indeed fight for things that matter and put into perspective the lack of support for ME/CFS and Long Covid patients, who face much worse and have no support. We don’t even have the awareness of our plight for the outrcy that other issues face. We do not even exist for most of the public in this world.

If I lit mysef on fire in front of the White House with a sign about ME/CFS awareness (something I have thought about doing when I feel suicidal, but won’t because I refuse to give up), it wouldn’t even make the news, and even if it did, I would just be written off as a loony.

People in this world care a great deal about many injustices. But they do not seem to care about us in the slightest.

Hopes and dreams are the spark that weave everything beautiful about humanity; Every single thing in human history we are proud of; Every single thing that is renowned or gives us perspective or shapes our understanding about the world. ME/CFS and Long Covid supress all of our hopes and dreams and this is for me the most devastating thing about the illness. All the beauty inside me and inside all of us that cannot be made real or shared. But I am still alive, there is hope for the future still, of some chance at a treatment that lets me share some of myself with the world. But too many of us are dying. And when one of us dies, all of their hopes and dreams are not just supressed, they are lost forever. Bridget O’Shea died this week. One of many ME/CFS and Long Covid deaths in recent months.

I just want to contribute to the beauty in this world. Bridget (see @Bridget_OShea on Twitter or her blog about ME/CFS) had so much beauty to contribute to this world. Beauty no one will ever see continue now because of indifference, ableism, cruelty, lack of humanity. Bridget and everything she would have continued to contribute to this world were lost forever by the cogs of a big machine that doesn't care about anything but easy, quick, short term money. But it’s bigger than that. Even people who aren’t part of the system of greed and care about equality, justice, social reform, etc., don’t care about ME/CFS or Long Covid patients. And I do not understand why. I am heartbroken, tired of being absolutely and completely stifled and suppressed, tired of losing beautiful people to indifference, tired of not knowing why people are so indifferent, tired of wasting away while beauty rots inside me.

The world needs to start caring about us and standing up for us the way it stands up for other injustices. We are dying. We are losing every single one of our basic human rights including our basic ability to contribute to this world and the world is losing everything we have to contribute.

And that must change. Someday research will show our suffering to be real and it will simply be impossible to ignore us no matter what people think, and things will change. But the suffering and death we will endure in the meantime and have endured for decades is inexcusable. I will never forgive humanity or this world for our suffering and for discarding the beauty inside every single one of us like it is garbage.

Love,
Whitney  
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